Beauty and self-esteem
Being aware of the level of our self-esteem has been increasingly important. With the expansion of the internet and the use of social networks around the world, this importance has become even greater. The internet is definitely one of the most extraordinary developments that the world has seen in recent years. Access to the internet has made the world literarily tiny. Giving opportunities to more people to create their own opportunities. For example this is how Anselmo Ralph via YouTube has discovered Landrick a very talent singer and decided to help him further in his career and also this is how Usher discovered Justin Bieber. Not to mention the access to information and knowledge which gives us the opportunity to educate ourselves even more. Therefore, having access to the internet is a necessity including for those living in small villages in underdeveloped countries.
Nonetheless, the need to educate ourselves about the advantages and disadvantages of the Internet is even greater. Based on what I have been following in social networks, there is a lack of education, especially regarding beauty and self-esteem. This lack of education has brought a lot of misconceptions, misunderstandings with unpleasant consequences. Even if beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, the concept of it is nowadays not only determined by our education and society where we live but largely determined by the media. As I remember it, when I was a teenager fashion was merely based on the Brazilian soaps and back then we had only one television station owned by the state and due to constant electricity blackouts we didn’t watch much television. Satellite TV was a luxury that only the rich had access to. Magazines, I saw only the cover on the displays.
Therefore, the influence of the outside world was very limited and what you wanted to be as an adult was largely determined by the persons closest to you like neighbours, aunts, and teachers at school. these were real people; their bodies were real too. Their culture and society were just like mine. Now, for example you can see very often that a 14-year-old girl living in Kuito (Bié, Angola) with a phone that has the internet can form her concept of beauty based on what she sees on Kim Kardashian’s Instagram or Nicki Minaj’s. They create a desire to look like them when society and everything that surrounds them has little or nothing to do with the lives of these celebrities. As a consequence, we are having girls using Maggi chicken cubes to have buttocks big as Kim’s without worrying how this can be extremely detrimental to their health. All this with the intention of loving oneself more and more.
Self-esteem means to love oneself in totality. And for me, self-esteem is above all, the ability to self-analyse, to be aware of your own strengths and weaknesses, without affecting the image that you have of yourself. It is knowing that one is not perfect and that imperfection makes one unique. It is to know that the most important thing is to be faithful to God (if you believe) and yourself in the first place and that those who really love you, will love and want you in any way without the need to mold you. Loving our faces and bodies contributes only a small percentage to love ourselves in full.
What really contributes to have a high self-esteem (at least for me) is doing what really makes me happy, which makes me feel proud of myself even when no one is watching. And it depends very much on the principles and values that each one of us has. Principles that are formed based on the education we received and the society in which we live. For example: no matter how “perfect” my body looks like or how beautiful my face looks like, but if I don’t get up every day to go after my dreams, if I’m not a good mother, if I supposedly was a thief or if I was deliberately hurting someone, my self-esteem would never be high. If I am not acting according to what I believe is right, I won’t have the will to make myself up. Even a Chanel bag or a Louis Vuitton shoes will not lift my self-esteem.
So my advice to each and every one is to review your own principles and values and live accordingly as longer it makes you really happy. Because those who love themselves, accept themselves as they are, they share their happiness and they are fun to be with.
The look is made by this beautiful white top. Everything I wore is from Zara.
I hope you liked the article! Feel free to give us your opinion. A kiss from AngoDiva for you and may God light your way. Do not forget to dream and always fight for the fulfillment of your dreams. With love, AngoDiva.